When time passes by

Now somehow along the road I forgot how fast time passed me by. This year would be the last year I can berfoya-foya as a 20+ girl. Aiyo, but to tell the truth kan. I still feel like a teenager and have just finish my study (so la teruk). It's like I don't think much (or try to think much) of the future. And as time passes me by, one by one of my friends have gotten married and even have several kids in their nest. While I still feel that I'm not ready for kids and marriage. Heck, I am afraid of marriage. There's always the worry of "What if I choose the wrong guy"... But at the end of the day, I do too realize (I do mature ok) that it is not about finding the right guy, it's about having the right mentality and willingness to compromise and acceptance in finding a life partner.

Why all these thoughts, well I came upon Kahlil Gibran thoughts on marriage. And it's perfectly beautiful how he pen his thought about marriage.

On Marriage by Kahlil Gibran

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.


Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.


Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

Aye... What we must not do is to not lose our individual self even when we became one with our life partner.